The consequence is that because messaging is the only way to test interest, more messages are sent — and ignored — and being constantly rejected may become disheartening. Disinhibition People behave in a far less inhibited way online than in face-to-face environments (Suler, 2004). ‘POF survey reveals 80% of Millennials have been Ghosted’ Retrieved from June 2017. Ghosting doesn't just happen on dating sites, it happens at bars/clubs as well. I see a bunch of girls (seldom do girls go to clubs alone), I approach, start a conversation with the one I'm attracted to.
This is known as the , and one reason it might occur is the feeling of relative anonymity online. If it looks like it is going well, I ask if I can buy her a drink. Without her friends around, I get a feel for what type of person she really is.
They don't want to feel they are 'just another guy'.
There is one special case that men, in particular, will often see as 'rejection' where they should not: when they receive no response at all.
There is no way to assess whether potential dates are interested other than to message them.