You may be together for a hot minute and in the process you will probably ruin your friendship.
However, I do believe if two people are meant to be together, they will find a way.
This rule is almost never stated or enforced among queer communities.
4) You are angry because she "should have known" that you still had feelings for your ex, because of all your hints, despite the fact that you said you're over him.
I don't want to be too hard on you because I'm sure you are hurting, and that's payback enough. Well, the first thing you should do is learn from it.
Lots of people have told me unequivocally that they would never date a friend's ex.
They wholeheartedly believe that it's wrong, disrespectful, and if a friend did that to them, they'd never talk to that person again.
He was severely emotionally abusive, manipulative and generally treated me like crap for the whole three years we were together. Everyone in my life eventually found out and got me to leave him. So, you were right to acknowledge that it wasn’t the “ex-factor” that made you angry. Unfortunately, this is NOT a normal situation and is in no way a run-of-the-mill case of “la la la my friend wants to date my ex boyfriend and now I’m annoyed! This girl is supposed to be YOUR friend and KNOWS that this asshat was ABUSIVE to her best friend. Under what circumstances is your friend even SPEAKING to this freak show, let alone dating him? She’s clearly being heavily manipulated, and is falling for it. Your ex is not the only one who is bad for you anymore. It’s hard to watch someone screw up their own life. All at once you want to knock some sense into her for being such an idiot, and punch her for dating your ex boyfriend. Through her actions, she's essentially saying that she has no self-worth, that she doesn't give a f*ck about you went through as an abuse survivor, and she cares more about this guy than she does about you. Honestly, this was likely the final nail in the coffin.