“We all make mistakes.” Nowhere is the cliché more apt than when it comes to relationships.
But experts say that even though it may seem like you’re getting to know the person better before your date, it’s actually a false sense of intimacy — and you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
“It’s a trend we’ve coined ‘premature escalation,’ ” explains Emily Morse, a sex and relationship expert and host of the “Sex With Emily” podcast on i Tunes. by the time you meet your partner for an actual date, you’ve built up this whole image and fantasy in your head of who you think they are, and then they turn out to be totally different.” That’s what happened to Kenny Thapoung, an editorial assistant from Bed-Stuy.
Then there’s the lack of faith in the abundance of the universe – the anxious sense of scarcity that propels us to “make things happen,” instead of letting them unfold. It’s uncanny how the women I coach all tend to commit the same mistakes (five of which I’ve outlined below).
Moreover, correcting the errors of your ways can be done with a bit of practice.
In relationships it really is true that patterns develop early on and if you don’t want this to be one, nip it in the bud, or bid that bud farewell.