It is always important to answer questions honestly. So when Mark, a civil servant from Kent, asks me “Do you like looking round old houses? Quiet is good if you’re at a relaxation spa, not a first date. I just thought you were busy reading,” I reply awkwardly. “I suppose I thought it would be a ‘different’ thing to do,” he sighs.
” I should’ve at least replied “Not sure, depends” instead of an over-enthusiastic “Yes! But he’s so hot and charming (over email, at least) I reckon I can skip the usual first meeting in a pub for something cultural. I try to ignore my nagging doubts about how this is going to go, but they’re the loudest thing in the room. “I thought we’d be talking more,” he admits, his face downcast.
may have successfully scored a date with Mars this month, but the rest of us are still in the dark when it comes to the perfect pick up. Or, I’ll get a friend to dance with me in his vicinity, make eye contact with him, and then move gradually until I’m dancing with him. I like when a guy is really interested in something because it’s more exciting getting to know them. Since gay couples aren’t the social norm, they’re free to engage in unconventional forms of dating.
If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, it stands to reason that the best guy pick up tips would come from…well, another guy. I don’t care if we end up talking about mustard as long as we’re enjoying the conversation. There’s no rulebook, which can be both good and bad.
One: Turn off your Grindr profile before the date begins, even if that's where you found him.
That little "pop" sound while you give him flowers is a romantic buzz kill.
Plus you may want to save some things to talk about just in case you run into the dreaded awkward silence. So if you bring a new beau around your gaggle before it’s the right time, the side of you that he sees may surprise him.