Finding love using online dating apps and services can be tough, and even dangerous for anyone who’s not straight and cisgender (those who don’t identify as transgender).
Yes, there are apps for gay men, like Grindr and Scruff, and one for queer women called Her. Enter Thurst, a dating app for queer, trans and gender non-conforming people.
Winter La Mon is a 28-year-old transgender man who lives in New York City.
He joined the online dating site OKCupid six years ago, about three years before he transitioned.
In both profiles he makes it clear that he is “a trans guy” and that people should “only message me if you’re cool with that.” Part of the need for this complicated negotiation is that OKCupid doesn’t allow users to identify as “transgender”—just “male” or “female.” The site has been in the news this week after cofounder Christian Rudder announced that developers secretly changed some people's compatibility ratings and removed profile photos to learn more about behavior on the site.
While some have criticized OKCupid for showing people false or manipulated content as an experiment, the site's failure to accommodate transgender users may be a larger and more long-standing ethical dilemma.
Laura’s Playground This community has been around for several years, and the FTM sub-forums are very active.