“I went to his flat one evening, when he’d been allowed to have the girls overnight, and I was introduced as ‘Daddy’s friend’ which I was fine with, as I was really aware of not wanting to confuse the children.
He’d separated from his wife a few months previously, due to her own adultery and he was clearly finding it hard to cope with this, despite putting on a show of bravado.“John saw his kids every weekend, in fact when we first started dating, he was staying at the former matrimonial home overnight most weekends, as he had been forced to rent a small flat so that his wife and children were able to carry on in the house without too much upheaval.
The arrangement worked as well as can be expected, but there was bitterness on her part that he had found a girlfriend – even though she had first – and she wasn’t happy that he was now seeing me on one of the nights that she had been going out with her new love.” Fiona met John’s children quite early on in the relationship, which surprised her, as most separated dads are reluctant to involve the kids straight away.
North Carolina law still permits an action for “alienation of affection” against a third party whom the plaintiff feels is responsible for ending the marriage.
Even if you did not begin dating someone until after the date of separation, a suspicious former spouse may see the new boyfriend or girlfriend as the cause of the marriage’s end and bring a court action.
Whether you’re a parent yourself or not, the dating scene can be tricky.