It’s also their loss for not giving me a chance, but still.
Or would the very thought of hitting on her make you feel embarrassed, not least if you were in the presence of your friends?
The most realistic answer to these questions is that even if the hottest girl at the party were the girl in the wheel chair, you would check out the second-hottest girl. But people have walked on fire to get a girl (or guy) they were attracted to.
But in the climate that prevailed at the time, people were shocked that I dared to hope for romance and physical intimacy. I was taught all of societies’ biases: that people with disabilities are different, sub-human, to be avoided (which is why we segregated them).
It was as if, somehow, my disability made me less human to them. And yet, when I became one of “them,” I was, still me.
History has too many examples of this to pick one that is adequate. Is it because you are only focused on what your relationship looks like to other people? Even if they cannot move their lower body, they can have erect penises and sensitive clitorises.