You joke, you flirt, you dress nicer when you meet him for lunch or drinks, you write long e-mails or tap out furtive text messages. He's not your husband, and your husband doesn't know about this guy—whether he's your ex-boyfriend from college, your Facebook friend or your coworker.
Is this the start of a beautiful (and innocent) friendship, or the beginning of the end of your marriage? Basically, emotional affairs occur when one partner is channeling physical or emotional energy, time and attention into someone other than the person they are in a committed relationship with to the point that their partner feels neglected.
In general, a successful relationship requires feelings of stability and security, physical and emotional intimacy, and companionship.
Ask yourself: Am I doing things or talking about things with this person that I don't do or talk about with my spouse?
Am I going to complicated lengths to arrange time with this person?
You know you love this ‘new’ person with all your heart. According to prof Helen Fisher, this is what happens in the brain with regards to lust, romantic love and attachment.
However, unless you really understand and face up to the potential impact of your infidelity, your 'new' relationship won't stand a chance.
Adultery does not always occur as a result of relationship dissatisfaction, though.